Wednesday, 7 August 2013

#BBATheChase: I Want To Get Married Next year – Beverly Osu

Well Beverly sure can hear them. This evening the young Ruby revealed to her fellow Housemates that she plans on getting hitched next year, saying: “I am ripe for marriage”. “But you are too young,” Cleo tried to advise the 21 year old. But that piece of advice seemed to go in the one ear and out the other for the Nigerian. “I am tired of having boyfriend,” she responded.
The fact that the sexy model is not currently engaged and has only recently taken up a relationship with, South African Housemate, Angelo is not going to deter her one bit from her mission either. When asked by her fellow Housemates what she would do if the South African does not want to tie the know next year, she replied: “There are lots of other fish in the sea”. Wowzer, this is a lady on a mission!
“If likes it then he should have put a ring on it”. Those are the lyrics to the hit song by BeyoncĂ© and it also seems to the life motto that Beverly is adopting. What do you think; is Beverly serious about this whole marriage business?

Rapper Eva Alordiah Talks About How Her Uncle Repeatedly Molested Her At 6

It is some months before August, the dates running all the way back into the calendars of the early 90s. In a few months from this day, she will turn 7 years old, maybe even have a big school party like her friend Aisha had weeks back. But today, while she’s still 6 years old and counting.
He will satisfy the incessant needs of his groins. He will have her to himself and make her feel like he was right and she was wrong to refuse him. So he towers his tall lean frame above her, looking down on her as he intimidates her with his size.
She’s scared, confused and lost all at the same time.
‘This is Uncle Emeka,’ she reminds her poor little head. ‘Uncle’. Not by blood or family ties, no. But Uncle, cause he is friends with Dad and Mom. Please continue.
He picks her up from the floor and props her on his chest, all the time saying,
“You know I’d buy you some more buiscuits when I come tomorrow eh? Did you like the ones I brought today?”
She nods. Barely knowing what else to do but nod in fear.Not too far off from the house just outside, she can hear her brothers playing in the yard. The maid is out on an errand and she is here by herself… With Uncle Emeka, who said he had come to see Mommy.
She feels his finger as they begin to find room big enough to fit,in the wells beyond the cotton lining of her baby panties.She yelps in pain.
He closes her mouth with his, swallowing her screams down his throat as he kisses her without shame, his finger still gliding in and out of her.
It is painful. It burns like hot coals of fire. She lets the tears roll. He tells her it is right.
“Am I not your best Uncle?” he asks with a smile that curves his bushy moustache into an awkward arch.
She nods.
She was only 6 years old. But this was to happen again three more times before her 7th birthday, each occurrence bringing with it several wraps of biscuits and candies. “Don’t ever tell your Mommy,” he’d say. “She’d beat you very hard. Do you want her to do that?”
It’s many years ago. But I write this now and I tell you, that little girl was me. Was. Because with time I overcame that. I found the strength to walk away from it and not feel like such a dirty, good-for-nothing girl as I felt every time it happened.
For a couple of years after that, I asked myself several questions I was not to find answers to if I didn’t seek help. So I did! And I let it all go. But not until I made sure I didn’t feel like such a whimp of a girl who couldn’t defend herself.
And so I grew up into a tough, smug, tomboy of a girl. I hated boys, but I had them as best friends. My playmates were the biggest boys in the class. My toys were water-guns and toy soldiers. I wanted to be tough. I wanted to be able to defend myself.
I was involved in sports, and every other thing the little girls in my peer group thought was too dirty to do. I didn’t care about dresses, and skirts. I hated them. So I wanted to be dressed like my brothers, and look like a boy.
For years I let myself believe -”If he was ever giving me anything, he wanted something in return.” This was the logic with Uncle Emeka, wasn’t it? Every time I got a present, or cookies and candies, it was because he wanted me to keep my mouth shut about everything, because he wanted me to be happy, because he wanted to come right back to prop me up on a wall and give me pain.
So I learned to get mine. I wanted to have what I needed on my own terms. I was never to ask for help from any boy, I was never to accept gifts, I didn’t want anything if I couldn’t get it myself.
I don’t exactly come from one of the richest homes. I have parents who made sure we had what we needed, and on time. I watched my dad and mom put in work, from morning till nightime tirelessly just to make sure we were okay. It began to dawn on me very early in life, if I didn’t start getting it myself now, I might never have the chance to when I am older and I might have to depend on taking from boys.
I didn’t want that!
It reminded me too much of Uncle Emeka. It brought all the pain from the past right back with hot burning tears each time I thought of it.
I wanted to work. I wanted my own. I loved school, I excelled at school bringing my parents much needed joy for all their hard earned money.
But school wasn’t to be over so soon. I had two more years to be done with secondary school and then to face another four after that for university.
I couldn’t wait.
At age 13 I realised I loved to read and write, so I began to write… and write even more! My dad applauded my stories, said I’d make a great writer and tried to get me published. But that was tossed in the wind as I fell in love with Eminem and focused my writing on Rap music.
I took my first job as a photography model at age 15. It wasn’t much of a job but it was a period in my life where I got to know much about business first hand. I didn’t take anything for granted. I had the sharpest, piercing stare ready for any guy who dared look at me like he wanted something!
“I’m not here for rubbish, I don’t have anything to give you, I don’t want your ‘gifts’, I will get mine.” I repeatedly told myself.
At age 16 I had auditioned for 2 movie roles and was successfully cast to act in them. On my first day on set to shoot, the director told me he loved me and tried to touch my young tender breasts. Wasn’t that the same thing ‘Uncle Emeka’ said many years ago?
I got up, fired him my ‘I’d kill you if you ever try that shit with me” stare and walked away from location never to face my acting dreams again.
By the time I turned 18, I had taught myself makeup artistry. I had also learned how to sew clothes from watching my mom sew in the house late at night after a long day at work. I was at university to study Computer Science at the time and I was by now a full time business woman. There I was, investing my N20,000 pocket money on bend-down select clothes from Yaba to sell in school and making over 400% profits each time.
I was finally beginning to get mine. It was “Work Eva, Work!”
I would hate to take you on a journey through a long post reading all about my experience to where I am now as a rapper/entertainer, so I will stop here.
Look at me. I have strived hard to get to where I am today. I did not happen overnight. I am hardly where I want to be, but God is ever faithful. I have done just about anything to make sure I never had to feel like a whimp. To never feel like I had to give myself up to get anything. To never feel like all I was good for was satisfying a man’s needs down-south for a gift in return.
Now, I’d tell you – I never granted an interview to anyone with the aim of revealing the fact that I was molested as a child. There’s no pride whatsoever in that. I was put in a tight situation, asked my opinion on “Child Not Bride” – and I apologise for not being able to control my emotions while I let my answers spiral out of my small mouth. We are talking about underaged girls being married off and having it right by law!
How do you think I feel about that having read my story now? This is rather too much of an emotional and delicate subject matter for me and I couldn’t help but relate to these young girls. And so I did say in passing without making that my focus – “Hey! I can relate, I had bad things happen to me as a child and I was molested.”
If you are going to find a punchline to draw attention to your blog, on a matter such as this, as a writer – how much effort would it have been to relay the emotions under which I said it in your post? Instead you chose to make me out to look like I was mouthing off and being proud about being molested as a young 6 year old child!
Is it just me or wasn’t that pushing a little too hard for the negative attention?
I’m not asking that you care about me. I’m asking that you care about the situation, I’m asking that a woman be a woman for another woman. In an attempt to drive traffic to your site, do not portray my story for me like I was out to brag about it. In an attempt to “not care” and just be a gossip poster at least be a woman for another and not make my own story look like a cheap attempt at quotations for fame.
But who am I to talk here right?
I was molested! I had my 6 year old vagina prickled with fingers and nails that left sores for days! I felt like a total loser of a girl. I was traumatised for a long time.
There are probably thousands of children in Nigeria, molested everyday. By their teachers, house maids, uncles, aunties- even their own parents! This is a serious issue, not just for the family but the society at large. I have kept this to myself for many years and never expected I’d break down emotionally and let it out in passing to express my opinion on #ChildNotBride.
I almost died weeks ago in an auto crash. But I am here. Alive. I did not intend to put my sad story out like this, but it is here now and I refuse to run away from it. So while I am alive now and can use my story to hopefully inspire one person, I stand for every young girl who has gone through even a tiny bit of what I have.
Talk to somebody. Anybody. Don’t keep it to yourself. Talk to your parents about it. Don’t feel bad about yourself. You must remember that you are beautiful, very beautiful. You must see yourself in the purest of forms. Everyday.
To every parent out there, I implore you please, guard your beautiful children under your wings like the mother hen. You might not be able to do that 24/7 because you must go out to work and fend for them, but you must, I beg of you, be ready to ask and be there to listen.
I am here. You are there, reading this.
I don’t know what you have been through, but I have talked to a great many people who were molested as kids. Boys. Girls.
So I do know that I am not here alone, and you aren’t either. What I went through was disgusting, but it propelled me daily to where I am now.
I am not traumatized anymore. I did not let this consume me. I am asking you now not to let it consume you. We sometimes think everyone else is perfect until we hear their stories. I have no idea what yours is, but this is mine.
This is not something I’d ever wish on any child. It is not anything to be happy about. I was molested, I am not proud about it, I am proud that I rose above.
I apologise for making you read such a long post. I couldn’t contain myself.
Love,
E.
#ChildNotBride

Buhari Speaks On How PDP Will Go Down; PDP Replies Him



General Muhammadu Buhari, 3-time presidential candidate and a major stakeholder in the newly-registered All Progressives Congress, APC on Tuesday said the new party is determined to push out the ruling Peoples Democratic Party come 2015.


“The APC is focus-driven to push the PDP out of power by 2015,” Buhari told members of the Democratic Emancipation Movement who paid him a courtesy visit in Kaduna.
On whether he will be the candidate of APC or not, Buhari said:
“My decision will be tied to the constitution of the APC. If the party chooses me as its candidate, I will contest. If the members do not consider me, I will not contest but I will still support the party. My decision to run for 2015 will solely be that of the party.” 
But the PDP, in a sharp reaction to Buhari, said that Buhari is day-dreaming. “There is no way the APC can win the election in 2015. He (Buhari) is day-dreaming,” said the Acting National Publicity Secretary of PDP, Mr. Tony Okeke.
Buhari however stressed that APC would give Nigerians a new lease of life and hope that would make the country rank top in the comity of nations.
He also lauded the nation’s electoral umpire the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) for mustering the courage to register APC.
He admitted that in the past, the opposition parties in the country had made mistakes because “we made ourselves vulnerable,” adding that they are now strong enough to defeat the PDP in 2015.


APC Tells Fake APC To Seek New Name For Registration


Still wallowing in the euphoria its registration by the Independent National Electoral Commission, INEC, the All Progressives Congress, APC, Tuesday, challenged the rejected African People’s Congress to seek a new name and apply for registration if it was keen on being a party.
Chairman of the APC Merger Committee, Chief Tom Ikimi, who threw the challenge at the phantom APC while speaking to Vanguard in Abuja, noted that the rejected group was being propelled by forces within the Peoples Democratic Party to seek to thwart the registration of APC for selfish reasons.

Ikimi, a former Foreign Affairs Minister, said that with the formal registration of APC by the INEC, the issue of who is real or fake had been laid to rest and that it was left for the rejected group to seek a new name if it was genuinely interested in being registered as a political party in Nigeria.
He said, “With the registration of APC, it is very clear who is fake and not. The fake APC should seek a new name and go for registration if indeed it wants to be registered as a party in the country.”
Ikimi, who took a swipe at the profiling of the new party by the PDP as a convergence of expired politicians, argued that it was not the place of Doyin Okupe, the Presidential spokesman on Public Affairs to judge the APC but the Nigerian people, who have been under the heavy yoke imposed on the nation by the misrule of the PDP in the last 14 years.
Ikimi, who is also the South-South National Vice Chairman of the APC, noted that the PDP was a harbinger of people who were good at making promises just to win the votes of exasperated Nigerians but good at delivering poverty and hardship to the populace since it came to power.
The former minister announced that APC would contest the Anambra governorship election in November and expressed optimism that it would win if the forces allowed a free and fair election.
While commending INEC for its courage in registering the APC, Ikimi however called on the commission to provide a conducive atmosphere for a free and fair election to thrive in 2015.
“We look forward to interesting times ahead, of a healthy political engagement between two national political parties that present alternative choices to our people,” Ikimi said.
“Peaceful change of power is a wind that is blowing across the globe and all over Africa now. Apart from France and Italy in the advanced democracies we have here in West Africa-ECOWAS region, examples in Ghana, Sierra Leone and Senegal where the opposition has successfully replaced sitting governments though peaceful elections. It seems to me that Nigeria is yearning now for a peaceful democratic change,” Ikimi stated.


Nollywood Stars Now Losing Endorsement Deals To Musicians



After a phenomenal rise to global fame, Nollywood celebrated its 20th anniversary recently. It ought to be a time to dance probably round the year, but things are far from being very rosy for the industry at present. Among other issues, piracy, absence of structured distribution networks and a string of scandals trailing some of its starplayers are threatening to rob Nollywood of its glory.


While these issues are not new, they have taken a toll on the fortunes of some actors and actresses. Before now, one area where a good number of the screen stars had found consolation is that of endorsements by corporate organisations, especially telecom giants. 
But the business world is fast shifting its love to musicians.
Only last week, Globacom dropped some of its Nollywood ambassadors, after settling for a crop of Nigerian singers. For some, it is a pointer to the fact that the organisation may have realised that musicians, rather than actors, have more influence on young people in Nigeria at the moment.
In this day and age, it seems all it takes for an average singer to hit it big in Nigeria is just one single – which does not necessarily have to convey a meaningful message. Then the money begins to roll in – invitation to perform at high-profile shows, a string of endorsements and so on become the lot of the artiste.
Those affected by the decision include some of its old hands, Ramsey Noah, Rita Dominic, Mike Ezuruonye, Monalisa Chinda, Nonso Diobi, Uche Jombo and Yoruba actor, Odunlade Adekola, who got signed on in 2011.
On the flip side, Chioma Chukwuka, Ini Edo, Funke Akindele and Desmond Elliot are retained, at least, for now.
As expected, the list has not passed un-scrutinised. The decision to drop Jombo, who is not only scandal-free but currently wears the toga of a producer and actress for Akindele, has, for instance been queried by some people.
Interestingly, MTN also appears to be thinking in the same direction. It has found love in the arms of reigning singers such as Tiwa Savage, Kcee, Inyanya, Praiz and Davido just as Globacom has courted M.I, Omawumi, Lynxxx, Bez, Waje, Naeto C, Flavour and Burna Boy. Besides, the former once engaged the services of top actors, Nkem Owoh and Patience Ozokwo, in some of its campaigns and TV commercials in recent years, but failed to sign them up as ambassadors.
Again, the fact that some of the artistes being signed on to both companies are still at the teething stage of their careers, with just a hit or two in their kitties, throws up more questions than answers.
But it is also sure that it is the one who pays the piper that calls the tune.
Traditionally, the concept of celebrity endorsements is embraced by top organisations all around the world because it helps to build trust with current and potential customers, while increasing the consumer’s desire for a product in the process
Also, radio and television personalities are taking the shine off actors with regards endorsements. These include big names like Dan Foster, Toolz and Toke Makinwa, who recently inked multi-million Naira endorsement deals as Lipton Tea ambassadors. Toolz, Makinwa and TV presenter, Eku Edewor, are also the faces of recently-launched alcoholic beverage, Snapp.
While it may be too early in the day to tell whether or not the ongoing romance with music stars may be short-lived or translate to portability, or a just a mere gamble, the fact remains that Nollywood is losing out in the game.